Thursday, March 31, 2016

Re-centering for the FLR Life

Perhaps the FLR lifestyle is new to you. You're investigating... looking for what's been missing in a successful relationship.  You've had unpleasant experiences in the past, but just can't put your finger on why.  

Men, you're attracted to women who are confident and strong, and know what they want when they want it. You've had bossy, demanding women in the past and the relationship has been unsuccessful.  These two types of women are very different.

Ladies, you're strong-minded and want to control your world and everything it's made of.  In the past, you've worked hard to carve yourself in every direction, trying to fit the mold your man wants for you...or shall we say...wants for him! You're attracted to men that are mature and strong, independent and decided. But are they, really?  Or have boys (men) unobjectionably bought into the persona of what society says a man needs to be; what he is made of?

Unfortunately, in our day and time, we are straddled with the bruises of a mean world, and broken relationships.  Our parents divorced when we were younger, or our fathers didn't encourage us to be true to ourselves as girls and boys in order to grow into confident women and men.  For some, this has left us to figure things out for ourselves...well into our adult years.

FLR is a female-led relationship, not a female/slave relationship!

For those of you raised to believe "the man should rule the roost", or be the "head of household", feel confident that this is exactly what will result when you are able to satisfy your man's needs; he needs your leadership and guidance. 

I am here to encourage you to keep an open mind when considering FLR. Be honest with yourself about what you need.  Identify what you have to offer.

Ladies, he will drown you in attention, always wanting to sit at your feet. Waiting for you to tell him which chore to do next, or perhaps offering pedicures.  If you long for this in your relationship, I encourage you to dig deeper.

Beach Angel

Long, Stressful Year...Ready for New Candidates

For the last year plus we have gone through multiple family crises. I would like to say we came through them, though there are still feelings of loss.
We have, however, come to the point where we are ready to start working again with couples and/or female dominant women, on their relationships in the FLR world. We will be working with a limited number of couples/singles at a time.
Our program consists of a 1-hr weekly meeting and two email exchanges during the week, for duration of 6 weeks.  At that time, we will reflect on the progress and make our plan, agreeable to all participants, going forward.
The introductory programs is 'BEARINGS'.  You will learn to identify:

  • Who Am I in the World of Female Led Relationships
  • My Role in the relationship
  • My Expectations from the relationship
  • Expectations of Me, and finally
  • How to Apply this Knowledge in My Relationship 

Fee structure:  Six-week Bearings Program $360.00; $100.00 paid upon reservation, $52.00/wk afterwards.  Payments are privately and securely accepted through PayPal.
We look forward to meeting the candidates to help you achieve the success you desire in your FLR relationship.

Thursday, November 20, 2014

Ever Changing Dynamics

       It has been a long time since my last post. We have been traveling a lot and the dynamics have been much different. A lot of people write me regarding the ups and downs and the roller coaster ride. Well, everyone goes through it! Us too. Life! We have learned a lot over the last year. When life presented circumstances with which chastity was difficult we back away. Long story short, wrong answer! The biggest thing I learned this year is that the commitment is important.
      I learned a lot about myself. And made some changes. The first of which is a dedicated paddle which I included a pic of on the site. It is specifically for me. Engraved with Boy Bride and Love Honor and OBEY. I have a love hate relationship with it but we have learned that without it I argue like a bratty boy with a big ego. Whe we argue its hurtful and lasts for days if not weeks. I feel resentful and we cant let it go. When she paddles me we don't argue and it is over after she is done and never spoken of again. It brings out the best of me. Very difficult to be told to go to the bedroom when I feel I have a valid point! Even harder to be told to pull down my panties and bend over. Then the reality is that its what we both need. It reminds me she is the authority and that she loves me enough to not let life separate us. She always makes me verbally acknowledge why I'm there and what I did wrong and what I will do different and apologize. She is sometimes too easy on me. Sometimes I feel like I need to be paddled till I cry. Its very hard for men to feel that emotion, and so often needed. We continue to learn.
      Another new revelation is that while I am a boy, I love my feminine side too. I have learned I like being shaved from the neck down. It feels so soft and sensual. She has learned she likes it too. That makes me very happy. Last month I got my first trip with her to the salon for a pedi. It was scary and exciting! I had never been and going with her was so great. She was not embarrassed by me but I was definitely uncomfortable to begin with. Other women there etc. She ordered me a margarita and that helped. When they said what color I felt panic! She picked 2 colors and I just relaxed as much as possible. When it was all done I left on her arm with my first French pedi! I love it! I love her for letting me express my feminine side. Takes a strong woman for that!
      We have settled down some now and she is on a short trip. I am home and locked up in my chastity device. We wont be going back to the life without chastity. I love being in an female led relationship. Some women don't understand that the need to lead outside the bedroom is as important as in the bedroom. We spend much more time out of the bedroom. Sometimes boys just need to be spanked!